headlights shorted out

So I bought my corolla a year ago, every couple of months the headlights on my drivers side would flicker out for a few minutes while going down the road, they always came back after a few minutes tho, eventually my drivers side dim and passenger bright blew, i replaced them but i didnt tighten the passenger bright and two months later the bulb slid out and caught the assembly on fire, i replaced the assembly and the wires were fine but a month after that(two weeks ago) My driver side lights shorted out again and never came back on, all the wires look fine, i replaced the bulbs and fuses and still got nothing, i really dont wanna go to a mechanic and pay a fortune to track down the problem, my buddy said i'd prolly have to reground the drivers side of my car but i have no idea how to go about that, i'm no good at electronics, and frankly electricity scares the shit outta me, any suggestions? I'm down to try just about anything, i was pulled over by a state and have a court date a month from now but if i fix it by then he said it'll be dropped PLEASE HELP

have u checked the bulb holdet itself.and the lights relays

Sounds like a relay indeed! I believe I have posted some scans in this section of all the fuses/relays... You'll have to look for it though, don't know exactly where I posted 'em

Sounds like the bulb is not making good contact in the socket, the socket might be fried inside.